Q: Gurudev, How do you bring peace to a relationship with a lot of conflict and arguments? Do you stay in it?
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There are two ways to handle it: • Move away from that place at that time - because when everybody is angry, things are heating up, everyone goes deaf. Angry people do not listen to anyone. The best thing is move away a little bit and wait for things to cool down. • Be there, with patience - First, agree with the person, say, ‘Yes, I agree with you.’ Suppose your husband or wife is arguing with you, don’t say, 'No', say, ‘Yes, you are right, I agree with you.’ The moment you agree, the temperature comes down. Then in a little gap, as the temperature comes down, say, ‘But…’. This is the secret. Sometimes people come to me with big ideas. I tell them, ‘Your idea is brilliant, very good, but it is impractical.’ Use your skill to calm the situation, and then get across what you want to the other person.